This blog post is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you are struggling with grief, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.
According to movies, TV shows, Facebook, Instagram, and many other communication channels, the holidays are often portrayed as a time of joy, laughter, and cherished traditions. But for many, this festive season can be a poignant reminder of loved ones lost. Grief can feel particularly intense during this time, as the absence of familiar faces and voices casts a long shadow over the celebrations.
Acknowledging Your Grief
Dana Neemann, Director of Education and co-leader of the CCMH Care Support Group, says the first step in coping with loss during the holidays is acknowledging your grief.
“Don’t try to suppress your emotions. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, loneliness, or any other emotions that arise. Crying, journaling, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist can be helpful ways to process your grief.”
On January 9, 2025, the CCMH Care Support Group will meet. Neemann said the program will be led by Paulette Lingle, Hospice Nurse for Crawford County Community Health.
“January’s meeting is a guided discussion to help us through the mindsets surrounding grief and loss. Paulette is in her master’s program. And so she’s really going to help us as we work our way through our thoughts and feelings.”
Honoring Your Loved One
Finding ways to honor the memory of your loved one can bring comfort during the holidays. Neemann offers some suggestions that might be helpful.
- Create new traditions: Incorporate your loved one’s favorite holiday traditions into your celebrations. For example, if they enjoyed baking cookies, make their special recipe together.
- Display photos and mementos: Surround yourself with pictures and cherished objects that remind you of your loved one.
- Light a candle: Light a candle in their memory during holiday gatherings.
- Donate to charity: Donate to a charity in their name as a way to honor their memory and continue their legacy.
Setting Realistic Expectations and Finding Support
Neemann also explains it’s important to set realistic expectations for yourself during the holidays.
“Don’t feel pressured to participate in every social event or to maintain a cheerful facade. It’s okay to say no to invitations that feel overwhelming or to take breaks when you need them.”
It’s also important to lean on your support system during this challenging time.
“Spend time with loved ones who understand and can offer comfort. Join a grief support group to connect with others who are experiencing similar losses. Have someone you trust whom you can talk to honestly about your feelings and emotions.”
Self-Care is Key
Prioritize self-care during the holidays. Neemann notes that maintaining a self-care routine makes coping during the holidays a little easier.
“Make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Eat healthy meals, cut down on sweets and snacks, and engage in activities that bring you joy. Exercise is a key component to mental health. Some also use meditation, and spending time in nature to help manage stress and improve their mood.”
Remember, Grief is a Journey
No one grieves in the same way or in the same time limit. Neemann emphasizes that grief is a complex and personal journey.
“There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no timeline for healing. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel all of your emotions. One way to help in the healing process is to experience some gratitude, kindness, and hopefulness every day. If we can find reasons to be grateful, to be kind to others, and have hope in tomorrow, our grief becomes more manageable.”
Reaching Out for Professional Help
If you are struggling to cope with your grief during the holidays, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help. A therapist can provide you with tools and strategies for managing your emotions and navigating this tough time.
Remember: You are not alone in your grief. Many people experience loss during the holidays. By acknowledging your emotions, honoring your loved one, and seeking support, you can navigate this challenging time with greater ease.
